Steve’s story

Steve (60) lives in Walsall and became a Samaritans volunteer following the death of his stepson who took his own life, leaving the family in devastation. He is one of thousands across the country that found themselves without a job in lockdown.

“Two days before lockdown was announced, I was made redundant, which came as a massive blow as I'd been with the company for twenty odd years and I thought that it would be my last job before retirement.

“I realised that I had to try and adapt and keep myself stimulated. As a volunteer for Samaritans, I'm lucky enough to have friends at the branch to talk to and support me.

“Lockdown affected my mood and the way I think about things. Everybody’s life is much more under a microscope, having more time to sit down and reflect.

"If you’re isolated and lonely and you’re finding this time difficult then share that. Whether it’s with friends or by calling Samaritans, I believe that talking really can change your life.”

In 2010, Steve’s 19-year-old stepson took his own life, leaving the family devastated and struggling to cope. Steve became a volunteer five years ago, as he wanted to be able to help others that may be struggling.

"In 2010, we were left completely devastated and it was so far reaching, it’s not a feeling you can explain.

“Suicide is like a shockwave that spreads through the whole family and we still don’t know why it happened.

“My relationship with his mum broke down for four or five years as a result, as we couldn’t cope with what had happened. We kept in touch because of the kids and managed to rebuild what we had and we’re really strong now.

“What we’ve been through is what led us both to become volunteers with Samaritans. We went to a suicide prevention conference together and found it really engaging. As soon as I got home, I emailed Samaritans. Within six weeks I was already part way through the training.

“That was five years ago and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. You have a different level of empathy for people calling up that have lost loved ones to suicide when you’ve experienced it yourself. It’s helped me become a really good listener, which is the most important thing.”