Tips on spending the festive season alone

For some, this may be how you prefer to spend the time. For others, being alone can add extra pressure to what might already be a challenging time of year. Whatever you’re feeling, there are things we can do to help ease the pressure and worry. Focus on the things that bring you joy and comfort this time of year.

If you don’t feel like there’s anyone you can talk to, our volunteers are here for you. Call free, day or night, on 116 123 or email [email protected].

In case it’s helpful, we’ve gathered some tips for how to cope if you are spending the festive season alone. 

• Prioritise what's best for you. At this time of year, there is a lot of pressure to do things that you may not actually enjoy. It is important to take time to rest and prioritise looking after yourself. Think about the ways you might be able to gently indulge and relax.
• Take a break from the news and social media. If you find it hard to stay offline, focusing on other activities can help you switch it off. Try turning off your notifications or leaving your phone in another room while you’re cooking, reading or out for a walk.
• Try this relaxing technique to help reduce feelings of stress: Raise your eyebrows for ten seconds. Then relax, and imagine all the tension leaving your body.

• Make a themed playlist. It could be dance hits or your favourite songs from a past decade. Set the scene with music that makes you feel uplifted. If you are looking for inspiration, you can listen to our playlist of hopeful songs on Spotify.
• Find your own traditions. f you don’t want to join in festive traditions you don’t have to. Making food you love, visiting your favorite place or rewatching a great movie are just some of the ways you can make the day yours.
• Plan your time. Planning how you’re going to spend time by yourself can help bring more structure to your day. This is especially helpful if you are feeling uncertain about how the day will pass. If the weather permits, going for a long walk or spending time outside with a hot drink in the morning is a great way to start.

• Connect with your community and find out what's happening in your local area. There may be a park run or walk, carol singing on your street, or a local organisation you can volunteer with.
• Listening to the radio is another way to connect with others and listen in on how people across the country are spending the festive period.
• Connect online. There are lots ways we can still feel connected with others, even if we aren't seeing them. Joining an online class or taking part in a virtual meetup about something you're interested in are just some of the ways you can connect with others online. Sarah Millican also hosts a Christmas day chat on Twitter each year.
• Talk to loved ones and break the silence. Calling or messaging your family and friends for a catch up or to ask them how they’re feeling may help you feel less alone and more connected to the people you care about.

If you don’t feel like there’s anyone you can talk to, our volunteers are here for you. Call free, day or night, on 116 123 or email [email protected].

Our supporter, Lauren has shared how she helps tackle loneliness during the festive season.